Experiences Following the Deaths of Disabled Foster Children: “We Don't Feel Like ‘Foster’ Parents”

• Published in: Omega: Journal of Death and Dying Vol. 49; no. 4; pp. 347 - 369
• Main Author: Schormans, Ann Fudge
• Format: Journal Article
• Language: English
• Published: Los Angeles, CA SAGE Publications 01-01-2004; Sage Publications Ltd
• Subjects: Bereavement; Canada; Caregivers; Child Mortality; Child Welfare Services; Children & youth; Death; Death & dying; Disabled children; Foster care; Foster carers; Foster Children; Handicapped; Others' perceptions; Parent Child Relations; People with disabilities; Personal experiences; Qualitative research; Severely; Surrogate Parents
• ISSN: 0030-2228; 1541-3764
• DOI: 10.2190/PMPX-5JWW-7LAB-C9LE

Foster parents in the child welfare system occupy a unique position in our culture. While expected to parent and provide safe, loving, and normative family experiences to a child removed from her/his family of origin, they are, simultaneously, expected to remember that they are not the child's biological parent. Increasingly, foster parents are being asked to care for children with severe disabilities that sometimes precipitate an early death. How do foster parents experience the death of a foster child with disabilities in their care? Semi-structured interviews with bereaved foster parents revealed foster parents' self-identification as “parents” who shared “parent/child” relationships with foster children whom they considered to be part of their families. The foster parents' experience of the death of the foster child with a disability was reported comparable to the death of a birth child, however, their identification as legitimate grievers was often disenfranchised by others.