Loving strangers, avoiding risks: Online dating practices and scams among Chinese lesbian (lala) women

• Published in: Media, culture & society Vol. 44; no. 6; pp. 1199 - 1214
• Main Author: Tao, Han
• Format: Journal Article
• Language: English
• Published: London, England SAGE Publications 01-09-2022; Sage Publications Ltd
• Subjects: Asian cultural groups; Cheating; Dating; Economic reform; Friendship; Gays & lesbians; Heterosexuality; Internet; Lesbianism; LGBTQ people; Networking; Sexuality; Social networks; Strangers; Wives; Women; China; intimacy; romance fraud; lesbian; moral panic; China; online anonymity; stranger sociality; online dating
• ISSN: 0163-4437; 1460-3675
• DOI: 10.1177/01634437221088952

The proliferating online social networking sites have created opportunities for Chinese queer women to meet new friends and lovers; yet, research on lesbian online dating in mainland China is scarce compared to heterosexual and gay online dating. This article investigates lesbian/lala women’s online dating experiences in the context of economic reforms and the trust crisis in urban China. It is based on 16 in-depth interviews and ethnographic fieldwork in Guangdong from June 2018 to July 2019. It focuses on two digital platforms: Douban Group and WeChat. This article explores how online anonymity and stranger sociality shaped queer women’s moral practices regarding turning virtual strangers into real-life partners. Queer women in this research expressed concerns about being cheated by low quality(suzhi) lovers, swindlers, and married women. This article suggests that the emerging online stranger sociality has both enabled and constrained lesbian/lala women’s practice of seeking loving relationships, while they must internalize the potential risks by themselves.