Benevolent Sexism and Mate Preferences: Why Do Women Prefer Benevolent Men Despite Recognizing That They Can Be Undermining?

• Published in: Personality & social psychology bulletin Vol. 45; no. 1; pp. 146 - 161
• Main Authors: Gul, Pelin, Kupfer, Tom R.
• Format: Journal Article
• Language: English
• Published: Los Angeles, CA SAGE Publications 01-01-2019; SAGE PUBLICATIONS, INC
• Subjects: Adolescent; Adult; Attitude; Attitudes; Beneficence; Evolutionary theories; Female; Humans; Interpersonal Relations; Mate selection; Mating; Men; Patronizing; Sexism; Sexism - psychology; Social Perception; Sociocultural factors; Women; Young Adult; parental investment theory; mate preferences; benevolent sexism; romantic relationships; social role theory
• ISSN: 0146-1672; 1552-7433
• DOI: 10.1177/0146167218781000

Benevolent sexism (BS) has detrimental effects on women, yet women prefer men with BS attitudes over those without. The predominant explanation for this paradox is that women respond to the superficially positive appearance of BS without being aware of its subtly harmful effects. We propose an alternative explanation drawn from evolutionary and sociocultural theories on mate preferences: Women find BS men attractive because BS attitudes and behaviors signal that a man is willing to invest. Five studies showed that women prefer men with BS attitudes (Studies 1a, 1b, and 3) and behaviors (Studies 2a and 2b), especially in mating contexts, because BS mates are perceived as willing to invest (protect, provide, and commit). Women preferred BS men despite also perceiving them as patronizing and undermining. These findings extend understanding of women’s motives for endorsing BS and suggest that women prefer BS men despite having awareness of the harmful consequences.